ORIGINAL: Ricky J
ORIGINAL: Ricky J
I was going to post, then decided on a pm, then said "F it" just leave it alone - but I'm not good at leaving anything alone.
My objective view of what happened here:
I was confused with what exactly you wanted, Todd. Did you just want the posters stories for historical purposes? We used to have a picture thread (Strib?) of all the posters that was a nice thing.
I was going to send you a pm after you and Ian had a little blow up thinking the best approach from here would be to send Ian a pm thanking him for his efforts, apologizing for any misunderstanding and explaining to him exactly what it is you wanted. I have a hard time believing Ian didn't act in good faith. I'm pretty sure I would of flipped too if my efforts were rewarded with criticism.
Another thing that I have found disturbing from as far back as the Strib days is when people comment about PM messages they have with people. P = private
PMs are only private if both people agree they are private messages. IMO. As a rule I treat them as private. Exceptions would be if some asshole sent me a rude, or mean spirited PM, I'm under no legal or moral obligation to keep it private, and the sender should have no expectation of privacy. If the conversations are amicable, there is a moral obligation to keep it private IMO. That said, I have no expectations of my PMs remaining private, but then my PMs are never worse than what I might post publicly. But if some were to make public my PMs, I would probably no longer PM them, and I might think less of them.
I agree ... except I have a little problem with the first sentence. If I'm talking to someone about stuff I wouldn't talk about in public and that person continues the conversation one should assume it is a private conversation, imo.
In that situation I agree you have a legitimate expectation of privacy. IMO the other party has tacitly agreed to grant you that privacy.