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bstinger -> RE: Vikes water cooler thread (1/16/2018 3:40:24 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Daniel Lee Young
To put this where it should sorta go....
I’ll be ok..
I have and continue to slog through an emotional, medical, mental and legal cesspool of inexplicable ridiculousness that I would not wish on anyone, no matter how much I disliked them.
It’s both personal and privately, a living hell on earth, that words can not do justice.
It is the little things, like my wife, the love we share, and the “ stolen moments” when she gets to share the bits and pieces of our daughters life she is allowed to send my way, like crumbs from the table of life... the pictures Julie shares, the little things my daughter gets to say or do that let me know she still exists, still loves me, still knows I love her and that someday, someday, this crapfest of busybody ****ups will be out of our family’s life and we will all be together again and get on with living, that gives me the strength to bear up under the stress and strain of it all.
Our family has been dealt a kind of injustice that defies explanation..
I understand and accept my role and responsibilities for the perception and the recriminations that have befallen my family’s situation.
The problem is, and I’m not joking, is that the nature of this situation has been so grossly exaggerated that more harm has been done to my daughter and my wife, their lives uprooted, destroyed, ruined.. whatever you care to call it.. It’s almost, but not quite, as if I had committed a heinous crime...which, in actuality, I was charged with doing..
But, I had my day in court, my charges were summarily dismissed and those records, sealed, because of deliberate and malicious perjury.
Unfortunately, criminal “allegations “ also drag in social workers, Children’s services and a whole host of other complex complications that I have been forced, albeit willingly, to contest and contend with.
It is this “secondary, collateral damage” that I am dealing with.
I am doing everything that is ordered of me by a juvenile court judge, to prove that I can provide a safe and stable family life for my daughter and wife.
The kicker in all this is that the one person, my daughter’s Therapist, who thinks I am unable to do that or be that kind of person has Never even talked to me, has conveniently “missed” a court summons, never, ever witnessed myself and my daughter have any kind of interaction nor did she even give me the chance or decency to address the original concerns prior to just taking our daughter away and making her a ward of the glorious state of Nebraska.
I have jumped through every hoop, taken every test, answered every challenge and allegation with complete and total candor, honesty, and integrity, yet my daughters therapist, with her bachelors degrees in therapy and counseling therapy has, despite 2 separate and independent evaluations by PHD’d psychologists, determined and reported, to the juvenile court judge, that she does not feel “the time is right” for me to have even as much as a supervised phone contact, with my daughter.
I have a lawyer, we work this ‘person’ over and over, and have even had her admit that she has made some judgements based purely on “hearsay “, yet in the great state of Nebraska, the requirement for proof or evidence of anything at the juvenile justice court level is only 51% one way or the other for evidence, and hearsay is considered evidence, to tip the scale of “ justice and proof of risk for harm”, one way or the other.
So my daughter’s therapist, by her “preponderance”of ‘evidence ‘,(51%), has complete control and the backing of the department of health and human services, under the guidance of the court in the great state of Nebraska, to deny me any contact with MY Daughter.
445 days, three foster families, literally hundreds of hours of separate or family counciling, therapy sessions, examinations by psychologists and psychiatrists, and the judge in our case, while giving my wife supervised visits and controlled event or outings with our daughter, will not and has not allowed me ANY sort of sessions or time to”reconcile” with my daughter, per this under qualified and hypocritical “ therapists “ recommendations.
As we grind along now, the district attorneys and Rylee’s guardian ad litem have moved over to either in favor of or neutral about my having contact, of some kind with my daughter, and my psychologist, who has a PHD and is on the state board for these kinds of juvenile cases, recommends and the judges stated goal is reunification of our family, this *****, who has never even spoken to me, continues to draw this farce out.
Why?
I can’t say, but I’m leaning toward “she’s a vindictive ####*” who is getting paid by the state for therapy work with my daughter.
So yea, I have this cross to bear, and I an not getting any younger and my daughter growing up under a situation where she is being forced to live in a broken family situation, for, imo, no reason.
C’est la vie.
Hope you get a positive resolution soon. I can't imagine the emotions you must be feeling.
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